Weighty Arguments

This past week I've spent a lot of time with my in-laws. My kids adore them, and I like them too. I really want my kids to grow up with tons of memories shared with their grandparents. (We're really close with my family, too. My parents are keeping my kids ALL next week while I return for pre-planning. We call it Camp Nana & Pop.) Anyway...I've been with them lots! My SIL has been bringing her boys and my husband's cousin has been bringing her two kids to swim at my in-laws' pool. We do lunch and just hang out for 4-5 hours swimming. Fun, right? Well, last week the weight battle between my SIL and MIL began again. You may remember I've already been witness to one of these arguments, and I even spoke up. You can read about it here.

So here's the scoop: My  SIL shows up with a new bikini. It's cute, a little showy. But, that is her. She is VERY confident and loves to be the center of attention. (We are very opposite.) Anyway, she still has the tags on her new bikini. She wants me and the cousin to give our honest opinion. We all agree she looks good. We tighten up the "bra" straps and she prances around doing her model walk. She's about a size 8 or 10 with a little extra weight in the middle, but she looks great, really. I'm proud of her. Well, she's about to cut the tags off and MIL has a heart attack. She tells her she is too fat to wear that swimsuit.They have a battle of words, SIL cuts off the tags, and swears to wear the suit every time she comes over. I keep my mouth shut this time. I admit ...I was afraid of the attack turning on me. There I was 187ish in my swimsuit. I was too vulnerable to stand up for myself.  So, I just said to SIL, you look great. If you got it, flaunt it! (lame, I know).

Then, a couple of days later, we're back at the pool. MIL brings out a long skirt for SIL. She says, I bought this for you because you need to start dressing for your age. SIL is 43. SIL says loudly,"I'm not old. I like to wear short skirts. I don't want that one." Then, they battle it out about SIL's age and weight. I stay quiet again. Although, I tell SIL to shrug it off when MIL goes inside. I'm weak, I know. But, I'm the in-law remember. I can't battle with these people.

So...my girls spent the night with the in-laws last night. We all have a pool date again today. What do I do about this? I know SIL will wear the new bikini. She's just like that. It's taken me a long time to get used to her personality, but I really do love her. She is completely "What you see is what you get." She thinks she is fabulous and makes no bones about it. I wish I had an ounce of her self-confidence. Should I let her fight her own battles while I cower in the corner??? Or stand up for the curvy girls???

I don't know why MIL is so obessesed with weight. She is *TINY*.  In fact, she probably needs to gain a few pounds. But, I'm not sure why she is worried about other people's weight. There is a woman at our church who I am sure weighs more than 350 pounds. My MIL can't stop talking about how she just needs to put her mind to it and lose the weight. She has no concept of the weight battle. Well, sorry for rambling.

A few days ago, Jessica gave me the Versatile Blogger award. Since I just received the same one earlier in the week, I'm going to stick with my list of 15 blogs that I've already completed. OR, you can check out the blogs that I follow.  I will make a list about me, and once again ....Thanks Jessica!!!

Here's 7 things about me:

1. I love to read People Magazine. It comes on Friday and I have to read it cover to cover that night. My sister gives it to me every year on my birthday. I think it might be my favorite present. It is the gift that gives all year long!

2. I have boxes and boxes of pictures and momentos that I need to put into albums...I have been avoiding that project!!

3. I love to jump on trampolines, but don't like to do it in front of other people.

4. I try to have a pedicure at least every two weeks. It's my gift to myself. :)

5. I like to wear FUN jewelry instead of really expensive stuff.

6. Stationery is my weakness. I love personalized stationery. But, for some reason I never use the last piece. What am I saving it for?

7. We get lots of catalogs in the mail...I usually stack them up on the counter with the intention of looking through them when I have time. However, 90% of the time, I end up throwing out the entire stack when it piles up too big.

HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!!!!!!!!!
J